hehehehe, then also durian time!!!!! waaaaa, syok….hehehehe, laksa & durian together….ahahahahaaah, super satisfied today….

and hor, later movie time wiz dad, mom, sis and didi…ehehehe..gonna watch kungfu panda!!! hahahaa, another set of laughter

Happy Father’s Day, daddy….

am at home chilling, with mom zzzzz-ing beside me….and suddenly i saw a mosquito on her leg!! suck syok syok….i go slowly near her leg, and wham!!! piak on her leg, killed the mosquito, but wake my dear mummy up…hahaha, she looked at me with her blur blur face….and i told her…”wu bang laaaa”- means got mosquito la…hahahahaha

and well yea, the mosquito sucked alot of blood, so much blood smeared on both mummy’s leg and my hands…yuckie!!!

well, mummy’s up…i gotta talk to her already….bye peepsssss

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“Being listened to, is so close to being loved that most people cannot tell the difference.” -David Oxberg

When I walked into Starbucks today for a late afternoon cup of tea to accompany me on my way home, I walked in on a young barista telling his invisible co-worker in the back room how tired he was of being told what to do. He said, “I don’t want you to give me advice, I just wanted someone to listen. I am sick of people telling me what to do.” I heard her voice coming from the back, “That’s ok. I am a good listener…” He didn’t see me at the counter until I said, “No one can really tell anybody else what to do. Although there are certainly people who think they can. I do it sometimes with my kids.” It never really works though, not nearly as well as listening closely and deeply to what they are saying.

Active listening is when you are listening to learn about someone, which is different at its heart from defensive listening, when you are just waiting for your turn to rebut what you heard. The ancient poet Rumi described this listening heart as the deep ear in his chest. It is a profoundly naïve and curious place that affirms the mystery of the people you love. It recognizes that even the people that we think we know best, are separate from us and in the process of continuous change. Learning to listen to oneself in this way is equally revelatory. The essence of our deepest selves and the love we long to share with others lives in the spaces between what we say and in the silence to which we rarely pay attention.

This is often where long-time partners and relatives get tripped up. We stop asking real questions or giving real answers. We live together half asleep and stop wondering about the other person’s dreams or our own. In its place, our communications degenerate to a defended listening, filled with fear and uneasy silence. No one feels heard. Healing this place by bringing an open-hearted curiosity to listening by offering your present and unconditional attention is a profoundly loving act. It is in fact the most powerful way in which we can bear witness to our love. When we can stop doing everything else and focus our full attention on the person across from you, then you are truly living in the present.

In part, this requires training our mind to slow down to the speed of sound. This is much slower than the speed of light, which we process through our eyes and is normally how we process our fast-paced lives. Listening not only for who someone is, but what they are feeling behind their words requires the heart’s wisdom as much as the mind’s knowing. You can’t slow down enough to really hear when you are multitasking, texting, or even making dinner. Active listening is an act of curiosity and requires full attention to the moment you are sharing with someone else.

The more you practice actively listening, the more apparent it becomes that words don’t really describe things nearly as well as they describe our relationship to them. This is where misunderstanding comes from. In our rush to communicate we often hear the words, but not the heart of what is being said. Slowing down and paying full attention to the people you love gives you the chance to heal and connect in a way that merely speaking cannot. I am learning about the power of a loving silence, which gives the people you care about the chance to figure out what is inside of them.

Cultivating this curious listening in your relationships is one of the most powerful ways to transform it and add a place of grace between you, which allows both partners the space to unfold and know themselves. It will surprise you how quickly and completely relationships can heal within the reciprocity that occurs when you step inside another’s experience completely. Judgment is replaced with empathy and the experience unifies the speaker and the listener in such a way that both people walk away somehow enlarged and expanded. Connecting our ears to our hearts is an act of love.

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family.  In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy,  she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice. It has been called “the essential guide for relationships.”  The book is available on ebook.  Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives with their four children ages 13- 22 in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.

Read more: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/listening-with-a-curious-heart.html#ixzz1OpWEbHDW

and now, somehow i would jus like to add on something. it is always good to praise anyone if we see something good they have made, or any better change they have made in themselves or for the others…this is just a way to encourage that person to make more better changes in himself and continue improving…this is just like a small kid, praise for the good things they have learned and did just in a way to encourage them to be good and remember the good values learned. so yea….praising is a way to encourage more of the good deeds done, or improvements done.

i came across an interesting article about listening…will post it next blog then….till then, gdnite!!! sayonara…..

too long a time i haven’t been blogging, and now it seems like my mind is jammed…i am not sure what i am going to write here tonite, so yea…jus blabbing of what i am feeling and thinking toniteee….

am chatting wiz my worf worf honey…hahaha…we have changed our profile pictures into 2 cute doggies pictures…me being the garang look cute puppy, and his is the shy and timid one, seems like being scared of the garang aka me puppy….ahahahaha

where do we find this cute puppies pictures?? ahahaha, that one have to ask my worf worf honey loooo…he always been the creative one, always come up with the notty notty and creative ideas…LOL..here, enjoy the picture….hahahaha

had taken sensitive nose medicine jus now, feeling abit drowsy and dizzy…had not been able to get good sleep lately, sleepless nite…i’m not sure why…
to say i am not tired, i am not..i am pretty tired…after taking exercises, i should be able to sleep as well,….but i’m not…i am sleepy when i am dozing off in the living room…but as when i drop myself on the bed, my eyes all awake…geez….am having insomnia already………………..
HELP~~~~~~

exam’s around the corner…Dec 4th that is….pressure is getting higher and higher…well, i guess it must be cus of the pressure…
having a change in the working environment, maybe am worrying….then again, never to give up so fast…..
learning is the way to upgrade oneself…..am taking up this challenge….

okay, wish me luck peepz…… lastly, am missing my lgc….cant wait to see him again coming diwali…..am always happy to have you around me…am happy to be yr darling….hugssssss

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same old job, same old me…..well, it’s a pretty hot year this year……super duper hot…i am even sweating right now…so hot….

well well, what is it there for me this year? what do i want to do better? what would be my resolution?
1) to be me
2) to love my family, my notty bf…and to love myself
3) to love my frens….
4) to love my work, well, by only loving it i would be enjoying it…hahhha
5) to PASS my exam, last paper….pls pls plssssssssssssssss
6) to shed 5kgs…hahahha
7) to learn how to swim (ahem, **hint hint**)
8) to ride a bike (it’s been 3 years since the last time i ride one, duno if i can still ride it…lol)
9) to listen to more musics
10) to spend more time wiz my family
11) to spend more time wiz my tiger…wuhoooooo
12) to discipline myself for yoga practice, hiking, etc
13) to eat moderately
14) to see more news, be more alert on global news

hahhaha…seems like the list is never ending…kekeke…
it’s march 2010 now…it’s going to a 1 year anniversary for me and tiger…hahahaha….happynyaaaaaa
omg, time passes so fast…hehe…feels like i had just fallen in love with him yesterday….
been falling in love for him again and again, everyday….every minute, every second….hahahahaha
how silly i could be? am superbly in love, that’s how silly i am…

headache, gonna go sleep now already…gdnite world…..
namo amitabha
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